As a child I was truly fascinated and mesmerized by the concept ' degrees of comparison' or as in my native language 'trappe van vergelyking', which when directly translated means steps of comparison. My curious mind was amused by this concept, as in essence, when you take an example of this concept in action, good, better, best, it was not perceived as a matter of comparison, rather a matter of growth and expansion. The child mind also questioned: "According to who? Who is the judge of these degrees of comparison and what made them a specialist in this area?" So who decided what is good, better or best? Through whose lenses are these comparisons given social acceptance and importance? How the comparison thing slipped into being into this concept still baffles my mind.
Please allow me to humor you a bit. Let's call in the description of degrees of comparison as per Wikipedia. "The usual degrees of comparison are the positive, which simply denotes a property (as with the English words big and fully); the comparative, which indicates greater degree (as bigger and more fully); and the superlative, which indicates greatest degree (as biggest and most fully)." So the cup is full, as in positive. And then the cup becomes more fuller, as in comparative and then the cup becomes most fully as in superlative. It is quite hilarious, how on Earth does a cup becomes more fuller or most fully?
Back to the little girl, she also wanted to feel this difference, as in the degrees of comparison. The mind had her own rendezvous while the body announced in tandem: "I want to sense and feel this difference." Which in itself was no easy task as it brought up many social-emotional intelligence questions. This little girl soon felt like a modern-day Don Quixote; something did not make sense at all. And this was just one of those 'somethings'. Fortunately, decades later, her integrated adult part made an extraordinary discovery….
Coming back to play a bit with the degrees of comparison today, it provides the playground for an interesting theme, The Next Level, from an evolution, growth and expansion point of view within the progression and expansion of Networking, as in Human Networking and not as in Computer Networking.
Without delving into history about the origins of human networking, the need to connect and to have a supportive system of sharing information and services among individuals and groups having a common interest became evident in the second part of the 20th century. People started to frequent places such as conferences and other events to obtain and share knowledge about a particular topic. This was the world where you attended a conference and passively listened to a variety of subject matter experts and speakers; much a one-way communication experience. You had the opportunity to engage in a social type environment with others who have common interests. This type of networking was still very superficial. You either attended events in your area/region or you had to travel to attend an event elsewhere. It was still much about My-world and what you can do for me. This was the world of competition, justification and credibility. I need to be better than you to be able to survive. I need to know more than you to be able to survive. Sharing is not even an option. It is about self-enrichment and self- gratification.
Then the Internet and the cousin of Human Networking, Computer Networking made it possible for humans to start connecting and networking with others wherever they are and opened up the entire world. The integral human need to express itself freely, share experiences, opinions and insights, became evident. My-world expanded into a We-interconnected and interactive world of social networking. Being connected is the most important aspect in life. Information is freely and easily accessible to everyone. We can connect to whoever we want whenever we want, no matter where we are. Our inherent human need to be seen and to be heard is satisfied to some level. Sharing becomes natural and fulfilling. Suddenly a whole new world opens up as we are exposed to new opinions, experiences, perceptions, ideas, possibilities, etc. Now it is about what we can do for each other. Authenticity, meaning and purpose start to take the place of the social need to proof ourselves and to be the best. Collaboration takes the place of competition. Our personal networks expand beyond common interests to like-minded and like-hearted people. We discover we don’t only want to survive, but thrive.
As we venture deeper into the 21st century, networking spontaneously progresses to another level. It is no longer about the number of people I am connected with, but about meaningful connections. I call this new level Resonance-Networking or Heart-Networking. A deepening that started to birth from Social Networking, the need to belong and to do something meaningful together with others that gives joy and which serves a larger purpose than just that of the individual. Collaboration evolves into co-creation with others who we share empathic resonance with. It is now about what we can do together in a cohesive, harmonious, resonant field, where there is abundance for everyone, in a way that serves all of humanity and the planet. We start to access the unified field of possibility from a deep place of integrity, respect, understanding, and resourcefulness to co-sense, co-envision, and co-create a better life where everyone, and every living organism and creature can thrive. The field nourishes, energizes and feeds our visions and creations. When we co-create in a resonant field, flow happens spontaneously. It is like a river; if connected to its source, it flows. Any disturbance in the field such lack, doubt, and fear stymies the natural flow and creates obstructions.
In terms of the degrees of comparison, there is no comparison here, but expansion and natural growth as we see within nature. The flower does not compare itself with another; it merely grows towards the sun. It is not about being better or the best. It is about co-creating in a resonant field with like-souled people where you best, authentic, essential self joyfully and spontaneously intends, plays, creates, relates, builds, operates and shares. No fear of failure, the need to take from others to be able to have, the need to proof ourselves, the need of approval, the need to please others, coercion, threats, manipulation, hidden self-serving agendas, and the likes are present in this environment. It is the world of the integrated, mature adult and not the wounded child, rebellious teenager or the insecure young adult.
We develop the gift of discernment to know what to keep alive and what to change, of knowing who to co-create with and where to direct and contribute our attention, energy and resources towards. For this to happen we look with fresh eyes each moment, listen deeply what is emerging from the field around us with a soft heart and open mind; not afraid to step into the unknown. As Penny Pierce says: “You feel into the world with conscious sensitivity and no hidden agendas.”
Resonance-Networking…when we deeply resonate with others, where we do not compromise our own truths and home frequency, where we live and express our totality in a space of integrity and congruency, where we reveal all of our brilliance and vulnerabilities without the fear of being judged, where we say YES to Life and fall into love with Life itself, where we give it our all, that is where we feel most ALIVE…. It is no longer just a life… We ARE ALIVE… In this space we can co-sense, co-envision and co-create magic, wonders and awe while we honor and appreciate the goodness, greatness and genius within each other and allow each other to be who we are... Heart-Networking… when all the armor, defense systems, wounded, reactive and suppressive parts melt through open hearts and minds in a resonant, unified, coherent field of possibility.
What else is possible?
No degrees of comparison please; it only creates division, separation and fear.
Degrees of Resonance serves Oneness, Possibility, and Love.